Are you simply feed up with being single? Do you resent spending too much time alone without anyone special? Are you relying on destiny to play cupid? Maybe it's time you took control of your own destiny!

Is your attitude the same as many single people - "if it's meant to be it's meant to be"? Well to me, it seems rather ironic that people diligently plan out many other important aspects of their lives such as career and financial goals, but when it comes to the ultimate ingredient of happiness (love) we are prepared to sit back and let the fickle winds of fate decide.

Making a plan to find a woman with the hope of destiny stepping in is a good combination. Become a master of your own destiny and create your own world of love and passion. Confidence and success are attractive qualities, but destiny will not be able to step in and make you a better person - that part you must do yourself.

Although this might seem a little trivial at first, let us start at the beginning and decide what type of woman you are after. Do you like women who share the same common interests as you, or do you like surprises and would prefer a contrasting personality? It's important to figure out whether you will except a woman who may have kids, a dog or cat! Or perhaps you will take her as she comes.

Next, how are you presenting yourself in the eyes of a potential love match? Remember, there is two of you to start thinking about now. A potential partner will instinctively look for little signs that show you have put in effort to please her. A well dressed man who looks great in clothes and is groomed well automatically moves to second base. As things go in the land of love, men are very visual by instinct however women look for more.

Often times in this day and age men are becoming single later in life and can feel isolated from the world and lose their self esteem at the thought of somehow trying to find another relationship. Once we hit our late 20s early 30s and find ourselves suddenly single, things have changed now compared to a few years ago and options to socialize in singles circles are few and far between. So it stands to reason that online dating has become the new default matchmaking tool of this generation.

The first mistake many men make when they join a dating site is to become over excited and rush the set up procedure - very big mistake! Take your time, remember, women love when men show attention to detail and offer thought and consideration. If you don't have a decent photo - get one done! Use a catchy headline, without an interesting photo and a unique headline, you will become one of the many deleted daters lining up for a shot.

Put the same amount of effort as you do into other core areas of your life and watch the dividends start to roll in. Make yourself a saleable item by working on your self image and confidence, then hit the chat rooms and start your campaign to find a woman!